106. Mutual Relationships

One of the most important fields of mortal life are the mutual relationships which manifest themselves everywhere starting with family, friends, classmates, colleagues, compatriots, and citizens, relationships among people on the street or in any other place. And having taken a more attentive look, you will notice the difference of your behavior in various places. You get much more relaxed within family and you may be liberal in loving, more in the way you understand love, or in being angrier and less tolerant. You restrain yourselves more with your friends and you do not allow yourselves to burst out as in your family. You restrict your actions with your colleagues even more. With the people on the street you do not even associate. However, if you go somewhere farther away from your city or state, then to you, each of you, even a stranger whom you have not known up to then, becomes a neighbor and you desire to approach him, you desire to share your experiences with him, to ask him about his experiences. And the farther away you are from your state, the closer the relationship with your compatriots.

However, during all this time you are the same man. You do not become another person when you associate with your friends or colleagues, when you are in your city or in a far off land. Thus, why is your behavior conditioned so much by the ambience, why do you behave so differently while even being the same person?

Your different behavior in different situations with different people is determined by your own human self. Each time it receives low vibrations, even beyond your conscious perception, the low vibrations coming out of your sub-consciousness motivate human consciousness to behave in one or another way. Human selfish animal mind immediately begins to act in the brain as the fastest computer, assessing the ambience and possible consequences if it behaves in one sort of environment exactly in the same way as in a different ambience. It is calculating in sub-consciousness, that one or another sort of behavior might cause much trouble to its own ego, might cause various problems if it gives a hug and a kiss to a friend in a similar way that it gives a hug and a kiss to his or her own son or brother. Still greater problems arise to one’s own ego if it behaves in this manner with a colleague. Meanwhile, by acting like this on the street it will provoke confusion even among many people because the person who will be attempted of being kissed will be scared and his reaction out of fear might be very aggressive and drag into that dynamic situation more passers-by, in no way connected with the situation, who will start expressing their own attitudes or even resort to some actions. However, if you behave in this manner after having encountered your compatriot in a very far off land his reaction will not be negative as it would be in your own land. In a far away country, the environment is unusual, alien to you, therefore every word you hear and understand or a noticed face from your own land, immediately brings you closer to each other and removes all barriers which would be immediately set up by a similar action in your own country. And the low vibrations being passed to your consciousness by your sub-consciousness to the effect that to behave in this manner in your land is inappropriate, are not judged so strictly any more in a far off land, and your consciousness blocks these very low vibrations and the brain receives a command from higher vibrations of consciousness to make a decision and give a hug to your compatriot.. This action by no means would be possible in your own land.

Does this mean that in one case this person behaves in a sober way while in the other one unwisely? Of course not. But in one case they might run into each other in their own city and pass by as two strangers and absolutely as alien people just because they are in their usual environment in which the actions of consciousness are determined by a multitude of information which lies deeply hidden in the layers of one’s sub-consciousness and which is ever accumulated through different events, through the stories heard, situations seen, accumulated unconsciously in addition to the attitudes man has already formed of an appropriate and inappropriate behavior on the street, and firmly established in his consciousness; so firmly established them that he has become a slave of these attitudes distorted by his consciousness, which forbid even to think that it is possible to behave otherwise than following these attitudes formed by his consciousness. Therefore, man behaves as a programmed robot – according to a program set by his consciousness and he does not think at all about any other sort of a more intimate behavior with people. And only after having come to a far off land, he begins to experience a completely different ambience. After some time he begins to feel that he misses his usual environment, even his native language, for he has to think hard in and speak a language that is alien to him and it wears out his mind. And this wear is suppressed by the experience of outer impressions, nevertheless it accumulates in man’s sub-consciousness all the same. And suddenly, after having heard the native tongue, an impulse from man’s sub-consciousness reaches his consciousness and it no longer resists this intimate and warm hug of a compatriot who, at least for a short while, removes tension, tiredness, and brings it back to the ordinary conditions of its functioning. Therefore, the former barriers and taboos set up by both man’s sub-consciousness and consciousness are easily overcome and one’s behavior approaches a sincere association even though the association is between the people who have not known each other up to that moment for they have never met each other before. However, they are brought closer to each other by the bond of their common language and nationality.

And during these moments, differences vanish which would necessarily exist in one’s own land – one’s social status, in what city one and the other live, whether one lives in the countryside and the other one in the city, what is their occupation, what their political views are, and many other separating barriers disappear, or if they do not vanish completely, at least they become much smaller so that they cease to impede their association. And these very obstacles spring up again to these very same people after having come back to and having met in their own land because when consciousness finds itself in its ordinary environment, the low sub-conscious vibrations which control a human animal ego, that sees danger to itself everywhere, begin to operate again. One’s frankness with others, one’s sincerity with others, one’s love for others, one’s mercy for others, one’s striving for truth, and similar things can be dangerous to one’s own ego, therefore this ego is hiding under different masks. It is nothing but a slavery of fear. And depending upon the ambience, it begins to liberate itself from fear. The longer man associates with others, the more he knows others, the more he begins to trust others, the less he begins to fear them, and therefore he can open up more and show more love.

Love is from the Universal Father. All creation receives the same love. There are no two sorts of love. There are only various interpretations of the vibrations of the same Father’s love, one’s own perception, sensing the vibrations being sent by Him, and spreading them to others by having already colored them with one’s own sensual experience, with the approach of one’s own human animal ego corresponding to the degree of self-protection of that ego.

Within family, if it is a loving and sincere family, human ego can experience the greatest relaxation and peace, and feel that it is safe, that it is not threatened by anything that could pose danger to it. Therefore, in this ambience human animal ego can experience more love sensations since love is inversely proportional to fear. And you, each of you, can experience it yourselves. Analyze your behavior within the family, with friends, with colleagues, with classmates, with people on the street, and you shall arrive at this very same conclusion – wherever you feel more anxiety, more fear, you feel less love there as well. You cannot associate there so sincerely as you can, and as you do, where you do not feel fear and anxiety. And that applies to all. There are no exceptions. Even beasts and animals behave exactly the same way. They feel peace and do not behave aggressively where they feel love. And on the contrary, the instinct of self-protection starts operating immediately, and right away aggressiveness arises where there is anxiety, fear; provided that the beast is not hungry. When the feeling of hunger dictates such a behavior, it has to satisfy the feeling of hunger.